I want to travel with friends over break but my parents want me to come home. How can I do what I want without disappointing my parents?

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Be honest with your parents! Tell them that all of your friends are going away on this trip and you don't want to miss out on the experience. Also, be sure to offer to come home for a weekend or a different break. Tell them that, while you're away with your friends, that you will call them and/or FaceTime them everyday and send them photos from your trip. Depending on how long your break is and depending on what your budget is, you could also spend half of the break with your friends and the other half with your parents! Discuss potential options with your parents and talk through everything with them.
I've found that when I'm away from home, Skype allows me to stay connected with my family wherever I am. Compromise with your parents by agreeing to Skype a couple of times each week, so that you can travel but your parents still get to see you. Make sure they know that you value family time, but that college is one of the only times in your life that you'll have the freedom to travel with your friends during break. If you promise to keep them updated on where you are and what's going on, and set up a Skype schedule that you stick to, they'll probably feel a lot better about letting you go.
Oh man, this is tough!! If there is a way you can go home for a bit before you travel, that might be the best way to go. That way, you can spend some quality time with your family, but also go on some awesome adventures with your friends. I'd also recommend just talking to your parents and leveling with them; let them know that you miss them and aren't just trying to get away from them, but traveling opportunities don't come around very often and college is the perfect time to take advantage. If you still make some time for your parents, during this summer break and then other breaks/long weekends, your family should understand.
It's a struggle that many college students have, spending time with your family versus spending time with your friends. Try to make some time to spend with your parents over break. Maybe shorten your trip by a couple of days so you can spend that time with your parents instead. Make sure that your parents are aware that you are growing up and that you need to have some life experience. Promise to talk to them every other day while on your trip or promise that next break you will stay home. Compromise is always best!
At some point, you have to decide that you're going to make your own decisions and not let your family dictate your plans for you. If you want to travel with your friends, travel with your friends! Obviously, finding a balance is key, but remember that you're growing up and you need to become more and more independent.
Maybe you can compromise! It's understandable that your parents want you to come home-- your friends already get to see you all throughout the school year while they don't. So perhaps spend a weekend traveling with friends, or even half the break traveling. But then come home. Find a middle ground so that you can spend time with both if possible.
When it comes to seeing parents and friends, it's important that they know you value them both. Many schools have multiple breaks over the course of a year, so I usually opt for a compromise. I would tell your parents that maybe you're going to travel with your friends over spring break, but come and see them over the summer. This transition is always especially hard in college because many parents are learning how to let go and kids are learning how to live on their own. Students have many important things happening in their lives, but it is possible to juggle them all if you learn to communicate and compromise well.

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